Thursday, 5 May 2016

Betty bright as ever at 100

Independent. Positive. Inspirational. That is how 100-year-old Betty Haughton is often described by friends and loved ones.

A happy resident of Rand Aid’s Ron Smith Care Centre, Betty celebrated her centenary on April 19. A tea party was held on the Saturday before her birthday, and was attended by many family members and friends. She was presented with 100 pink roses to mark the occasion.

One of Betty’s fondest memories is flying from England to South Africa after her husband, Norman Atkins, who was a major in the army, accepted a position here with an insurance company. They had four weeks to sell everything before they left to fly south in a chartered Dakota DC-3... with a four-week-old baby in tow. Betty remembers that the journey took five days and four nights and they had to stop every four hours or so to refuel.

In seven decades that she has lived in South Africa, Betty says she has never been homesick, although she has returned three times to visit family in England.

London-born and raised Betty, who has two sons and a brood of grandchildren and great grandchildren, was the youngest of six children.

She lost her first husband, Norman, in 1993, and later married Leslie Haughton.

A keen bowls and bridge player in her younger days, Betty now attends occupational therapy at the care centre, enjoying a range of arts and crafts that keep her mind and fingers nimble.

“She the custodian of family tales and will often correct me when I get my facts wrong,” shares niece Sheila Tebbit, remembering that when she attended St Mary’s, her aunt was always at school events to support her and her widowed mother.

“She worked for many years as secretary of Linksfield Primary School,” says Sheila, “and when I recall her home, I think of classical music and encyclopaedias.”



Chinese lunch on the lawns of care centre

One day last year, some of the residents from Ron Smith Care Centre’s Cedar Park wing were participating in one of their ‘Who Am I ---Get to know me’ chat sessions.  The topic of ‘favourite foods’, a very popular subject, came up for discussion, and it was discovered that quite a few people loved Chinese food!

The conversation continued... “What specific Chinese dishes did they enjoy?” They responded: “Sweet and sour pork, chicken with cashew nuts, beef chow mein.” The list grew and grew, as each resident remembered (and salivated over) what they used to order and enjoy, when they went out for Chinese food or ordered takeaway.
The more everyone talked, the hungrier they got, and it was decided to host a Chinese lunch.

The morning of Saturday, April 23, dawned and staff and volunteers of the Rand Aid care centre got busy setting up for the lunch. Chinese music and golden oldie tunes played in the background and colourful Chinese lanterns and fans that the residents and volunteers had made in OT were strung up around the gazebos. Volunteer Eve Higgs provided lovely flowers for the tables, which were set and readied for the 118 guests (from all six wings of the Ron Smith Care Centre).
 
Then, the much-anticipated Chinese food arrived. Some of the residents even showed proficiency at using their chopsticks, while others good naturedly tried using, with a giggle or two, the unwieldy sticks.  Aside from the food that each resident, family member, staff and volunteer had ordered for him/herself, there were also spring rolls, bowties and ice cream on offer. And finally, to round off the delicious lunch, a nice cup of fragrant Jasmine tea! This was such a wonderful day of family, friends, food and fellowship.


Feedback from residents


Resident Jill Jones expressed grateful thanks for a wonderful Chinese lunch. “We were all so appreciative of the tremendous amount of thought, attention to detail, organisation and hard work which went into making this event so successful.” 

Frank and Karen Mitchell said it was a lovely lunch and a great day, and all the Cedar Park residents (whose fondness for Chinese food set the lunch in motion) signed a thank you card saying, “It was a wonderful outing –we loved it!  The food, décor, everything was all so good.” 

Lakeside resident Peter Barker summed it all up by saying, “I have just got back to my room after a happy experience eating Chinese grub! I must express my thanks before I do anything else. The time and trouble given by so many people to put meaning into so many lives is beyond praise.”




Ria van der Westhuizen (right) says: “What is joy? Sharing a delicious Chinese meal with my sister, Val!” (left).


A fun time was had by all...









And making the lanterns beforehand was just as much fun ...



Lilian Christie holds up a colourful lantern.


Morris Kahn and caregiver Rodney Baloyi.


Our beautiful lanterns.



 The volunteers who helped make the lanterns: Jennipher Chibeka, Patricia Oosthuizen, Carlynn Hose, Jackie Erasmus, Noelene Puntis and Carroll Prigge. 

Memories of Good Times and Vintage Cars

Ninety-seven-year-old Ron Smith Care Centre resident Bunny Marks still has a taste for adventure.
Denise Stewart, who volunteers at the Rand Aid-run care centre, says she and Bunny got talking one day about what he enjoyed most in his colourful life. “This led him to show me all the lovely car trophies and pictures of veteran cars which he had restored, including Buicks, Pontiacs and MBGs. The walls of his room at the care centre told the story of these cars which are so close to his heart, and about which he is so passionate,” says Denise.  “I mentioned the Piston Ring Club which meets every month in Modderfontein, only to discover that he was a long-standing member.”
On hearing this news, she made a promise to herself that she would take Bunny to a club meeting so that he could rekindle all his memories of this particular passion of his. “The day after his 97th birthday, which was on April 17, his daughter Maureen, her friend, and my husband Dave and I surprised Bunny with an outing and visit to the ‘Ford Day’ at the Piston Ring Club. There, we were able to view the many beautifully restored vintage and veteran cars on display,” says Denise.
Bunny had the opportunity to meet up with some of his old acquaintances, and they spent time chatting about the old days and all the happy times they had, restoring all these wonderful vehicles of the past. He so enjoyed the day, talking to his friends and sharing their enthusiasm and love for vintage cars. 
“What an amazing outing for us all; we made a promise that we would return soon to remember and re-capture the past in all its glory,” says Denise.



Bunny Marks on his 97th birthday.

Thursday, 14 April 2016

Flipping good fun with flapjacks


There was a delicious smell in the air one Sunday afternoon at Rand Aid’s Ron Smith Care Centre on the River Lodge 1 wing, as a group of residents whipped up a batch of flapjacks for tea. 

As they mixed up the batter &and watched very carefully to find just the right moment to flip the flapjacks, they reminisced about all the times they had made this comforting food for their families and how it was always a special treat.

The activity was organised by Leannie Bessinger, the Charge Sister on River Lodge 1, and is very much in keeping with the Eden Alternative philosophy of providing activities for the residents of the care centre which bring meaning and joy to them and which remind them of the simple pleasures and day-to-day activities they enjoyed when they were living in their own homes. 

Activities such as baking or preparing food, which takes place right in the wing where they live, makes for a more homely atmosphere and takes away that feeling of living in an institution, which is what the Eden philosophy is all about – finding those activities and simple pleasures which make this place home for each resident.


“Leannie is living Eden and I am so happy with the activities she organises over weekends for the residents,” says Zabeth Zühlsdorff, Rand Aid’s GM Services and Advance Division.


Patricia Stevenson, Janet Smart, Dolly Luke and Ginny Lorge try their hand at flapjack making.


Jean Smart gets mixing, with a little support from Lettia Nyelele.


Saturday, 26 March 2016

Young teen spoils Ron Smith Care Centre residents


Moira Dowds, who resides at Rand Aid’s Tarentaal retirement village and who has been a long-time volunteer at the Ron Smith Care Centre, has a wonderful 13-year-old great granddaughter named Sharn Drysdale, who lives in Alberton. 

One day, on a recent visit to her great grandmother, Sharn asked, “What happens with all the grannies at the frail care centre over Easter? Do you think that maybe some of them don’t have any family or friends to come visit and bring them treats?”

When Moira replied that she thought that some might not, Sharn decided to take some of her birthday money and buy Easter chocolates for some of the residents. She made up 25 little gift packages, complete with a loving Easter message contained in each one and asked her great grandmother to deliver them for her.

On March 24, the day before Good Friday, Moira came to Ron Smith Care Centre and with Debbie Christen, Rand Aid’s Manager Recreational Programmes, dished out the Easter treats to residents in River Lodge 1. They were absolutely delighted to be remembered in this way and touched by this young lady’s kindness and caring heart. 



 Yvonne van Belkum, when asked if she enjoyed eating the chocolate!


Volunteer Moira Dowds giving Dorothy de Bruyn an Easter treat from her great granddaughter Sharn Drysdale.




Bible group puts words into action at Ron Smith Care Centre

After a recent session by one of the Bible Study groups at the God First Church in Fourways, Jane Molony and others in the group decided that they would like to show a little kindness and care to some of the elderly folk in the community. 

After phoning around to several old age and care homes in the area to see what would be possible, they were rather discouraged by the lack of interest. Jane says, however, that Rand Aid was a different story. She and her group were delighted to be given the opportunity to provide an Easter Tea for the residents in Lakeside at Ron Smith Care Centre, and on Wednesday, March 23, they came bearing scones with jam and cream, lamingtons and Easter eggs for residents and staff in Lakeside.

One of the group brought along her young son Mason and baby daughter Zoe, much to the delight of many residents. Mason particularly enjoyed dishing out the Easter eggs to all the residents, whilst Zoe was an instant hit with residents and staff alike.
The good news is that after this first visit where they felt so welcomed, the group (which has 12 members) would like to start making monthly visits to Ron Smith Care Centre and to really start getting to know the residents better.

The group’s visit was such a nice surprise for the Lakeside residents – they weren’t expecting this Wednesday morning treat and they were very appreciative of the kindness shown by these strangers’ who will hopefully become friends in the future.



Peter Barker (right) shares a laugh with Jane Molony, organiser of the Easter tea and treats for Lakeside residents.


 Little Mason Brims gives Joyce Dubb an Easter egg, with Carer Audrey looking on.



Linda Brims, Peter Barker, Jane Molony, Mason Brims, Sister Tando Ncube, Francelle and Zoe Brims.

Wednesday, 23 March 2016

Volunteers learn about dementia

 A brand new group of volunteers began their volunteer work at Rand Aid-run Ron Smith Care Centre at the beginning of the year. 

They were invited to attend an Orientation and Training Session on Wednesday, March 16, where they were given an introduction to dementia, including Alzheimer’s disease, by Senior Occupational Therapist, Sylvia Birkhead.  Around 28 volunteers, old and new, attended the training event.

“We felt that it was necessary to introduce our new volunteers to dementia, and to give them a basic understanding of the disease in order to assist them with their ability to work with, engage, communicate and connect with our residents, many of whom have Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia,” explains Debbie Christen, Rand Aid’s Manager Recreational Programmes and Volunteer Co-ordinator for Ron Smith Care Centre.

“Although not all volunteers work directly in River Lodge 3, our special dementia wing, they will at some stage most likely encounter residents who are mildly or moderately affected by Alzheimer’s, and so the more knowledge and understanding they have about the disease, the more empowered they will be to make a valuable contribution to the quality of life of our residents, and to discover what would bring them meaning and joy.”

Sylvia’s presentation included an explanation of the types and stages of dementia and the fact that whatever form it takes, there is cognitive impairment which usually affects the person’s memory, ability to communicate and ability to reason or make decisions.  As the disease progresses, mood and behaviour can be affected, as well as a decline in skills and abilities of everyday life. 

So with increasing loss of function, the person gradually loses independence and requires more care and assistance. She went on to explain the difference between normal ageing and dementia, and presented guidelines on how to talk to a person living with dementia, and especially how to communicate compassionately with a person who has memory impairment. 

She also spoke about the importance of planning activities for people living with dementia, and how volunteers can play a significant role in implementing sensory stimulation-type activities for each individual with whom they engage.  Sylvia said, “It is a fallacy that persons affected by dementia are not able to do anything. The memory may go, but the feelings are still there. We need to learn how to tap into what is there within the person and to try and connect with what brings him/her joy and meaning.”

To quote Rayne Stroebel, Regional Co-ordinator of Eden Alternative South Africa, as he shared an experience he had with the Elders of a Care Home: “I cannot quite figure out why the past six days have moved me so deeply. The only thing I can think of is that I have learnt what it means to be truly present. And in that presence my soul was profoundly touched. I became one with the deepest soul of every resident.  I connected with them and through them, with the divine in each of them. I realised and felt it deeply in my being that dementia is a disease that attacks the brain and not the soul… if you are prepared to make yourself vulnerable; to be open to seeing the person, and not the disease and to remain in that presence, something will change forever.”


 Some of the newly-inducted volunteers at Ron Smith Care Centre, who attended the Volunteer Training Session on dementia: Hazel Spearpoint (Hazel, now retired, used to be the charge sister who ran one of the care centre’s wings), Caroline Booysen, Priscilla Bowden, Carroll Prigge and Noelene Puntis.